Raising A Parent, Recommendations

(Pages #15-54)
As I continued to read through the numerous recommendations the author was making in reference to his mother and caring for her, I noticed that he suggested many things that involved being kind and patient. A lot of the things the author recommends, such as being patient and not taking things for granted, seem like sensible ideas and common sense,but many don't follow such recommendations because they are too distraught when their parents become elderly and ill and don't pay as much attention as they should to their parent and their needs. For example, the author's mother in her last years seemed to believe certain things that weren't true, and instead of arguing with her, you have to compromise and try to stress them out as little as possible and just agree with what they are saying. It may be hard for those who are stubborn, but for their health and your sanity, just go along with it. He also mentions when they had to buy a place for his mother to reside in and he felt that he would rather spend his hard earned money on something for them, his wife disagreed. It turned out for the better, and allowed the mother to live without worries. When it comes to housing, it's also important to ask questions about the place and review it thoroughly before allowing a loved one to live there. It may look nice, but sometimes discrepancies can happen, such as when his mother's UTI medication wasn't administered after a transfer because of the staff not being on the same page. It makes me think of what I have to do for my parents when it comes to be their time.